Do I Have a Crush?
It can be pretty exhilarating (or terrifying) to think that you’ve booked a one-way ticket to crush territory—especially when you can’t quite put a label on what you’re experiencing. How can you know if these feelings are legit, though, or if your mind is just faking you out?
We’ve got you covered. Hit “Start Quiz” to see if the butterflies in your stomach are the real deal, or if you’re safely out of the crush zone.
- Constantly! It feels like they’re always on my mind.
- Pretty frequently. My heart skips a beat when I think of them.
- Occasionally, but not really in a romantic sense.
- I never daydream about this person.
- In a committed relationship.
- Possibly dating or casually hooking up.
- Hanging out as friends.
- Nowhere—I don’t think my relationship with them will change.
- “That sounds great! I would absolutely love to go.”
- “I should be able to, but let me check my schedule.”
- “That’s fine, I guess. We’re paying separately, right?”
- “Eh, no thanks. I don’t really feel like it.”
- I feel really jealous and sad. I want to be their special person, y’know?
- I feel a little jealous, but it’s nothing that ruins my day.
- I feel happy for them. I’m glad that they’re having a good time.
- I feel indifferent. I literally couldn’t care less.
- Um, every day! Don’t tell anyone, though…
- The thought has definitely crossed my mind.
- Eh, not really. I can only picture myself hugging them as a greeting or send-off.
- I don’t really care one way or the other.
- Some incoherent jumble of excited thoughts.
- Oh, that was them—did I look okay?
- Oh, look! It’s my friend!
- Nothing that’s related to them.
- Almost constantly! A part of me is always on the lookout for them.
- I’ll occasionally scan the crowd for them.
- Not really, but I’ll wave if I see them!
- Nope—I never think about them, to be honest.
- Awful. What will I do without them around?
- Pretty sad, but I guess it’s not the end of the world.
- Happy for them. I hope they take lots of pictures!
- Disinterested. I probably won’t even notice they’re gone.
- Way too much. They manage to come up in every conversation.
- Pretty often. My friends definitely know this person by name.
- Occasionally, but not all that often.
- Never. I don’t know if I’ve ever talked about this person.
- More times than I can count.
- A few times, maybe, but not that much.
- Maybe once, but hardly ever.
- Not at all! I’ve never stared at this person.
- Super frequently. We’re always texting or DMing to some extent.
- Pretty frequently! We’ll chat at least once a week.
- Maybe once every 2 weeks or once a month. Our convos are pretty sporadic.
- I can count on 1 hand the number of times I’ve texted them in total.
- Absolutely! I love the way they make me feel.
- That would be nice, but crushing for a long time can be tedious.
- Not especially. I don’t think our current relationship needs to change.
- Nope. I don’t even know why I would have a crush on them.
How to Tell If You Have a Crush on Someone
Catching feelings for someone can be one of the most confusing experiences ever, especially if you aren’t totally sure what the nature of your feelings even is. Here are a few key signs to watch out for that your feelings might be wandering into crush territory:
- You tend to mirror their body language. They scratch their head; so do you. They turn in your direction; you turn towards them. These low-key movements are all classic signs that you’re attracted to the person in question.
- You get really close to them. Sure, people stand pretty close to one another during conversations—but you like to stand as close to them as possible. If you find yourself wandering within 0 to 18 in (0 to 46 cm) of the person in question, there’s a good chance that your feelings aren’t quite platonic.
- You always make time to message them. Yes, messaging someone frequently doesn’t automatically move your feelings into crush territory. However, it could be an important signal that the person in question is occupying a lot of your current thoughts and feelings.
- You tend to ask them a lot of questions. Whenever this person talks, you’re always genuinely interested in what they have to say. In fact, you often find yourself asking them a lot of follow-up questions so you can get to know them better.
- Your stomach faces them whenever you talk. Believe it or not, the way your torso points during a conversation can say a lot about the way you feel about an interaction. Pointing your belly towards someone, for instance, shows that you’re interested, while turning your belly away shows the opposite.
- You feel a need to preen around them. Nope, preening isn’t just for birds—plenty of people adopt this beautification habit when they’re hoping to catch someone’s attention and impress them. Preening can be as obvious as fixing your makeup in the mirror or as subtle as picking a fuzzball off your shirt sleeve.
- You remember the little details they mention. Chances are, you aren’t remembering every little detail of your classmates’, coworkers’, and acquaintances’ lives. When it comes to the person in question, though, you remember tons of details from your previous conversations with them.
- You tend to make eye contact. Yes, eye contact is considered polite in most conversations—but when you’re talking to the person in question, you have no problem keeping your gaze glued to them throughout the interaction.
- You feel a little awkward when you’re near them. Acting or feeling awkward around someone isn’t irrefutable evidence that you’re crushing on someone, but it’s a pretty common sign that you’re down bad for the person in question. (Bonus points if you’re worried about saying the wrong thing or somehow embarrassing yourself around them.)
Want to learn more?
Want to explore your feelings a little more? Here are a few resources to help you get started: